Are you in a gaslighting relationship?
Thinking of the relationship where you have questions about gaslighting, answer the following questions. ​
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1. Do you often second-guess your memory of events, conversations, or things you were sure of before?
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A) Often
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B) Sometimes
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C) Rarely
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D) Never
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2. Does your person tell you that you’re too sensitive or overreacting when you're upset?
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A) Often
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B) Sometimes
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C) Rarely
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D) Never
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3. Do you find yourself apologizing a lot, even when you’re not sure you did anything wrong?
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A) Often
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B) Sometimes
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C) Rarely
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D) Never
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4. Does your person deny saying or doing things you clearly remember?
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A) Often
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B) Sometimes
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C) Rarely
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D) Never
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5. Do you feel like you’re “walking on eggshells” to avoid conflict with your person?
6. Has your confidence or self-esteem decreased since the relationship began?
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A) Often
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B) Sometimes
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C) Rarely
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D) Never
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7. Does your person isolate you from friends, family, or support systems?
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A) Often
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B) Sometimes
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C) Rarely
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D) Never
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8. Do you feel like you can’t trust your own judgment anymore?
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A) Often
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B) Sometimes
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C) Rarely
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D) Never
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9. When you confront your person about their behavior, do they twist the conversation to make it your fault?
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A) Often
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B) Sometimes
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C) Rarely
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D) Never
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10. Do you feel confused, anxious, or “not like yourself” more often than not in the relationship?
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A) Often
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B) Sometimes
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C) Rarely
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D) Never
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Score your quiz:
Often = 4 points
Sometimes = 3 points
Rarely - 2 points
Never = 1 point
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Results:
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30–40: There are strong signs of gaslighting in your relationship. Specific support will help you make sense of what is happening and help you with healing, strategies and tools.
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20–29: Some signs are present. Support will help you gain confidence in your ability to step out of range.
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10–19: There are a few concerning signs, but not enough to suggest a clear pattern. Stay self-aware, continue reflecting and consider additional support if needed.
Please note: This quiz is offered as a reflection and is not intended to be diagnostic.​
